It's understandable to feel that the world is inherently bad and people are wicked when you've experienced disappointment, pain, hurt and are caught in webs of negative emotions.
However, it's important to remember that your immediate experiences, while valid and painful, do not necessarily reflect the totality of human nature or the world at large.
If you've faced disappointment in relationships, whether in dating or through stormy marriages, it's easy to generalise that all individuals of a particular gender are the same from your negative perspective. Yet, such generalisations can close you off to the possibility of positive connections and potential fulfilling relationships.
There are people with similar relationship experience who have found joy after looking out for better life experience. And yet, there are people in that same location who have met partners they regarded as angels, godsend soulmates. It is not the gender, tribe, religion or location that influenced the outcome. It is the choice we make and the circumstances of our choices.
"The country is bad." "The country is run bad leaders" is the music on lips of many people. In that same country, there are people who live like they were not in the same country. They thrive, seem unaware of the negative economic index, bad leaders and media perspectives. It is not that they didn't see bad leaders or the media screaming negative headlines, they made a choice to paddle through the stream of media negativity with positive and determined mindset. Some made it and some die trying. It wasn't the country or bad leaders that made both the winners and losers, it was the decision they made and their attitudes to what life throws at them.
Similarly, setbacks in your career or inability to land that dream jobs, struggles to find the right business partner, or the elusive feeling of a missing "spark" to unlock your potential shouldn't lead to the conclusion that the world is unhelpful, insensitive, or blind to your talents. Often, the path to success is not linear and involves navigating unforeseen obstacles.
Many times, the people we placed hope on may not be "available" at the point of our need. They, too, may be grappling with some challenges we do not know. Many times, their efforts to help are truncated by circumstances beyond their control. And yet, many times, they simply were not able to understand us even though the key to our becoming extraordinary is right in their pocket.
While personal accountability is crucial, it's also important to acknowledge that life unfolds through a complex interplay of timing, circumstances, and the choices we make. Though we rarely set out in life to make detrimental decisions, life's unpredictable nature means that outcomes can deviate significantly from our intentions.
The rain falls indiscriminately on everyone in the same location. Yet, the impact varies. While some might catch cold, others might find pleasure in it, while still others could be caught in devastating floods and personal tragedies. Yet, there are farmers, who rejoice at every drop of rainfall.
The negative outcomes of rain isn't a fault of the rain itself, nor necessarily the fault of the individuals affected. It illustrates how the same external factor can yield different experiences based on individual vulnerabilities and circumstances.
If you find yourself in consistently unfavourable, hostile, or negative conditions, it's wise to consider whether a change in your environment, attitude, the people you surround yourself with, or even the mindset you bring to your choices might be necessary. This isn't about assigning blame or running from challenges but about recognising your willpower in shaping your future. Sometimes, shifting our perspective, or our surroundings, or the contents we consume online can open doors to new possibilities and more positive experiences.
I send you the eternal soothing words of Rabindranath Tagore, to help you reshape your mindset regardless of circumstance you find yourself "Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add colour to my sunset sky."
Your friend, isqil Najim
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